For the Well-Behaved ✦ 4 MIN READ
Finsub etiquette, darling.
A proper introduction gets read.
The DELULUNOMICS edit
A finsub is a financial submissive: a man who enjoys giving within a findom dynamic. If that sounds like you, darling, let us improve your entrance. I have an excellent attention span for a useful sentence and a rather less impressive one for demands disguised as compliments.
Read the room. Read the rules.
Before you introduce yourself to a findomme, read what she has actually written. Her tone, her expectations, her entry process. You would be amazed how much confusion disappears when a man discovers the information already in front of him.
Here, the information is gloriously clear. I am Madame DeLulu. I am manifesting millionaire status. My public world is yours to explore, and chatting with me has an entry requirement. A vague message asking how to get my attention is a little less compelling once you have walked past all the signs.
If my confidence appeals to you, wonderful. If you prefer another tone, know that before making an entrance. I do not need to be everyone’s idea of reasonable. I am rather busy being mine.
Introduce yourself like you mean it.
Be brief. Be specific. Tell me whether you are new, what sort of teasing suits you and the limit you have chosen. I like a clear introduction much more than a breathless claim that you will do absolutely anything. Absolutely anything is a very imprecise starting point.
Try: ‘I am new to findom. I like light teasing and being called a simp. My session cap is $22.’ A few straightforward details give us something useful to work with. Three paragraphs about how unusually devoted you are tend to give me a reason to reach for my espresso.
Keep private financial details and passwords to yourself. You are making an introduction, not handing over your identity. I want a sentence with some self-awareness in it. Start there.
A complete sentence. A little self-awareness. You are already improving.— MADAME DELULU
An admirably attentive man has manners.
Do not confuse submission with a licence to become demanding. A send is not ownership of my time. A compliment is not a summons. An unwanted explicit message is not the grand entrance you may imagine it to be.
Read a reply before answering it. Say what you actually want instead of making me excavate the point. If a term or a tone does not suit you, tell me plainly. I prefer precision; it leaves more room for the entertaining part.
The most appealing first impression is not an extravagant promise. It is a man who understands the dynamic, knows his own preferences and can follow a clear instruction without adding seventeen unnecessary conditions.
Chat with me. Make a proper entrance.
Want to chat with me? Start with your account. Use your non-anonymous Throne username, complete the verified USD $11+ entry process and finish the preference prompts. The site confirms the qualifying receipt before activation. Madame is fond of a proper entrance.
Once you are in, read the request shown in your account. Further chat sends have their own requirements; the entry amount is not a promise of unlimited conversation. If you have a question, make it a clear one.
You can choose your limits and decline a request. My confidence is extravagant, but your yes still needs to mean yes. Get that settled, make your introduction, and let us see whether you can keep up with a woman who has a million on her mind.
A few good questions.
What should a new finsub say first?
Read the rules, then introduce yourself briefly: your experience level, preferred tone and chosen limit. Clarity makes a better impression than a claim that you will do anything.
Should I call you Madame?
Madame DeLulu is an excellent place to start. I do appreciate a man who notices the name above the door.
What gets your attention?
A clear introduction, good manners and an understanding of my world. Chatting with me has a verified entry process; follow it rather than assuming a comment or gift guarantees a reply.
